“It’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not”.
Self-confidence is an attitude which allows people to have a positive and realistic view of themselves and their situations. Our daily actions have a great impact in the way our self-confidence is developed. Below mentioned are 20 behaviors that will help you skyrocket your self-esteem and enhance your self-confidence. You may be doing many of them as a part of your natural behavior. In case you’re not, try seriously to include it in life.
Be kind to yourself
You’re a human being like anybody and are not immune from making mistakes. Be gentle to yourself when making mistakes and forgive yourself. Focus on doing things right next time and not thinking how stupid you are.
Learn to say ‘NO’
There is nothing wrong in saying ‘NO’ when a task is not your obligation or responsibility. I’ve seen a number of people at workplace who take up unnecessary responsibility and then starts complaining about it. You need not do something which is distasteful or inconvenient if it’s not your responsibility.
Be receptive to feedbacks
Keep a healthy attitude towards constructive criticism. Never let negative feedback cripple you. Instead, learn from them and empower yourself. Taking a positive attitude towards criticism will boost your self-esteem and your overall chances of success.
Do not compare with yourself with others
We all have different qualities. Whenever we compare ourselves to others, we always tend to focus on what others have and we don’t. This attitude damage your self-esteem and destroy your self-image.
Resist the urge to please others
“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”
People may love you or hate you for who you are. It’s not your responsibility to change yourself just to get acceptance from others. Don’t be swayed by what people might think of you or how people would react your deeds. Instead of trying to win their applause, do things that please yourself. This will make you feel good about yourself and raise your self-confidence.
Smile when criticized unnecessarily
If somebody criticize you unnecessarily, smile, shake it off and walk away. When somebody criticizes you, their objective is to make you feel guilty and thus establish their superiority. Never heed to their wish.
Accept compliments graciously
When you are complimented for the good work you have done, no need to say ‘I didn’t really do well. It’s nothing big’ or something like that. Just say ‘Thank You’.
Become a problem solver
Focusing on problem will always worsen the situation. When you face problems, focus on ways you can solve it. If any other person is having problems, try to contribute to resolve issue.
Treat people as equals
Do not feel belittled by age, experience, position, qualification, knowledge or appearance of another person. Never act submissive before others. Treat yourself as a person who deserves respect like any other human being.
Accept full responsibility for things in your life
Never blame fate or situations or god for things happening in your life. When you blame something else, you lose control of the situation. Instead, take responsibility and start looking for solutions to change the situation.
Be an expert in your domain of work
When you’re expert, you will command respect and you will start believing in yourself more. Try to learn more about what you do and become a master in it.
Decision making is important quality of leaders. Take the lead to reach decisions when others are reluctant. This will boost your confidence and others will start seeing you as a leader when you’ve a position or not.
Start working for what you want
Start working for the goals in your life. If you are looking for a different job position start acquiring the required skills. If you want to start own business, start the foundation works. While working for your goals, track your progress. Looking at the progress you made will make you way more confident and happy.
Always to do positive self-talk
Never call yourself ‘idiot’ or ‘stupid. Eliminate these words forever from your dictionary. Calling yourself names will only help you to drain your self-confidence.
We cannot change things happening around us. Accept the fact that things will keep on happening which we may like or not. Be ready to change as per situations and focus on readjusting your attitude. Worrying about change or trying to change what is around is you is a waste of energy and time.
Rely on yourself
Try to be independent. Do not allow others to do things for you always. Doing things on our own will boost our self-esteem.
Make ‘Happiness’ a habit
Happiness is a state of mind and it’s up to us whether to be happy or not. It’s your responsibility to keep yourself happy. Strive to keep yourself happy and soon it will become a second nature for you.
Be ‘Comfortably’ wrong.
You need not be right all the time. Learn to acknowledge your mistakes. Accepting mistakes is a sign of maturity and good self-esteem.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”